Love Is Essential for Survival - Ryan Walton

   Many historians believe that fire was the most important discovery in all of prehistory. They are in simple fact, wrong. If it hadn't been for another discovery long before that, fire may have never been found. So fire was not, in fact, the most important discovery, love was.

   Many people would argue, saying, "How can we know if they loved?". I can only prove it by the fact that they survived. If it had not been for love, there would be no reason to live. There must have been, and must now be, love to hold a person to life. I can't claim to know what early man loved, whether it be the hunt, a food, or even the love of life itself.

   What's the most common thought after someone has lost everything they loved? Quite often, suicide is the first thought. The force that stops some though, is that they found something to love or remembered someone who loved them. Imagine a web stretching out from a person, connecting the person to the things they love. However once the strands are severed the person is no longer stable and finds themselves falling, it is now that survival is in critical danger. Some people, the lucky ones, find that after they've been falling for sometime, either a strand that they didn't know was there saves them, or as the severed strings fall one has attached itself to something new. As soon as the falling stops the web remakes itself, maybe attaching to completely different things or combining some of the old loves to a few new ones. Sometimes, unfortunately, the web seems to have healed itself but it may not longer be as strong. The next time it may not take all the strands to break before the person is falling again. This time they may not be caught on the way down and then they hit rock bottom, the lowest you can go, hating life itself, and at this point a person no longer cares about such things as suicide as long as their life ends. This is why it's important to stay close to a person who is going through rough times. By staying close to someone there is a chance that you can catch a strand as they are falling and be their lifeline.

   Once I believed that love was an attraction to someone. Now however I have learned the meaning of true love. Love goes beyond adoration or longing, beyond lust and desire. True love, although it balances on the brink of obsession, is a limitless ability to want to improve yourself for the one you love, you want to become something they'll like. It's also the desire to be near that person, to talk to them, to listen to them, to feel their presence. Most important is the thoughtless process of sacrificing yourself for them. I say thoughtless, not because you lack the ability to think rationally, but because you sacrifice without contemplation. True love could drive a man to do anything a women wanted and he would trust that whatever he was doing was for the best.

Notes about this writing:
This was written by me, Ryan Walton, during the summer of 1998 in summer school. I've been keeping it hidden until now, since I decided that other people should know what I think. A little about me, I'm a Junior in Manheim Township school district, I'm 16, and a dedicated (yeah right) swimmer.